Mithril! I haven't seen you around in a while! Or so I thought until I checked your LJ because apparently I missed your last two posts. I had been a bit worried about you and I'm glad to see you're okay and still around LJ.
Anyway, I love your idea of having rules for providing feedback! It certainly helps lay down clear guidelines about what is acceptable for whole communities as well as individual authors as well. Part of my problem was that I hadn't realized the comments I had been making could be construed as being too critical of an author so I hadn't exhibited as much tact or caution in writing them. But seeing as my definition of what is acceptable in a comment has now been redefined, I'll be much more aware of it from now on. This whole mess was all my fault to begin with and I'm hopeful I'll come out of it a better person. We all must continually strive to be better, right?
For me, I feel the same way -- if there is an author or story I don't agree with or just isn't working for me, I'll leave as soon as I realize it and move on. I filter out most of the stories with summaries, warnings and pairings that I think won't agree with me so the majority of the stories I read are perfectly fine. When I do hit something that I don't generally like all that much, I try and deal with it the best I can and allow the author to try and lure me to their side. I find that when that actually does happen, it's rather glorious and while I may not be okay with it anywhere else but that one story, it still makes a great impression.
Your Most Favored was actually one of those stories for me. I don't think I'd ever read anything involving Gunn, Illryia and Wesley in sexual situations seperately much less all together at one time (also, I hadn't been a big fan of more than two people having sex) but you certainly got me convinced that it was perfectly natural. And I adore your stories so much that I still go back and reread them every couple of weeks or so. I love moments like those and it truly makes reading fanfics a wonderful experience.
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on 2008-12-23 10:43 am (UTC)Anyway, I love your idea of having rules for providing feedback! It certainly helps lay down clear guidelines about what is acceptable for whole communities as well as individual authors as well. Part of my problem was that I hadn't realized the comments I had been making could be construed as being too critical of an author so I hadn't exhibited as much tact or caution in writing them. But seeing as my definition of what is acceptable in a comment has now been redefined, I'll be much more aware of it from now on. This whole mess was all my fault to begin with and I'm hopeful I'll come out of it a better person. We all must continually strive to be better, right?
For me, I feel the same way -- if there is an author or story I don't agree with or just isn't working for me, I'll leave as soon as I realize it and move on. I filter out most of the stories with summaries, warnings and pairings that I think won't agree with me so the majority of the stories I read are perfectly fine. When I do hit something that I don't generally like all that much, I try and deal with it the best I can and allow the author to try and lure me to their side. I find that when that actually does happen, it's rather glorious and while I may not be okay with it anywhere else but that one story, it still makes a great impression.
Your Most Favored was actually one of those stories for me. I don't think I'd ever read anything involving Gunn, Illryia and Wesley in sexual situations seperately much less all together at one time (also, I hadn't been a big fan of more than two people having sex) but you certainly got me convinced that it was perfectly natural. And I adore your stories so much that I still go back and reread them every couple of weeks or so. I love moments like those and it truly makes reading fanfics a wonderful experience.