Thanks... I think it's because we're Asian that we can't put her in a retirement home or something like that... It would be easier on us and there are many times a day where I wish she was just gone but in the end, we just can't do it. Plus, since she's really old (she turns 90 in two months), and doesn't speak any English, and is very Chinese (distrusts white people, won't eat any Westernized food), we're very much aware of the fact that she would be miserable there and would probably end up slowly dying if we ever did it. :(