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A small pet peeve
Apr. 9th, 2008 01:05 amSo, someone on one my communities just posted that someone shared a media file of hers that she didn't want shared and because of that she's not sharing anything any more.
I find this really stupid.
Being upset at someone stealing your links and files and sharing them without your consent, that I can understand. What I really don't like is posting about it. Seriously, what does she want? Validation from other fans saying "you're totally right in doing what you did" or "that sucks, I hope that person dies for ruining it all for us"? I seriously don't understand. A decision like that doesn't need to be announced if there wasn't some sort of expectation to go with it, like she was responsible for uploading whatever it was. It belongs more to her own personal journal than the community and frankly, I really wouldn't like reading them even if they were on a personal journal.
It's just that the expectation that your own personal wishes will be honored that gets to me because even if it's a tight-knit community, even if you're just sharing with "friends," if you're sharing things online to people out of the goodness of your heart, chances are, it's going to be downloaded, taken and reuploaded somewhere else. And however much you're upset about it or how you specifically asked for it not to be have been shared, they should have realized that only nice people would honor that request and there will always be bastards who ignore it. And knowing that, and after weighing the risks of your file being shared without your permission with the gain of people adoring you for your media posts and then if still deciding to share your stuff, you should be okay with the outcome, whatever it may be. And not whine about it afterward. Or at least do it in an appropriate place -- like not in a community that may have people like me who don't give a damn.
It sucks she won't be sharing her files any more. I have no idea what she shared in the past but one less person sharing stuff always sucks. But if she just disappeared off into the sunset, I wouldn't have noticed. She's not one of the people I know or have on my flist so I doubt I would have cared either. But posting on to a community to explain yourself after the fact is like trying to get the last word in and it's really petty. I don't want that stuff on my flist if it doesn't relate to me. Is that really so much to ask?
Ugh, this just gets to me. I see these all the time and while I sympathize with them, I really don't care for the way they handle things. It's like they scream "Take a look at me! I'm the injured party! Flock to my side and hate all those people who are responsible for me not sharing things with you! It's all their fault because they forced me to do this!" Share or not to share, that is their own business. Their reasons for either are their own. They do not need to announce it to the world either way. And to presume people care about their reasons without someone asking about them first is just arrogance. And I really dislike people who do that.
When it's just posted to their personal journals, I can deal because hey, if people on your flist aren't the ones who would care, who would? And I ignore those posts because I realize that it's perfectly valid ranting to people whom you've become friends with online, people whom you can expect who give a damn about this happening to you. But onto a whole community? That's like taking arrogance to a whole new level. And I'm stuck with this really negative post on my flist and since I was already frazzled to begin with (trying to figure out plans for my parents to fly out for my graduation sucks ass), this just makes me even more upset.
Ugh. I shouldn't hate on people. I hate people who hate on people. I don't want to be that person. I've got to calm down. This isn't hurting me. This doesn't affect me. This had nothing to do with me. I don't know this person. I don't know what files she's refusing to share. And I don't care. Aside from the negative energy she's let go on my flist, this has nothing to do to me. I am calm and I'll get over this. There are better things to do, like rereading Misconceptions again. I'm going to focus on that for the next few hours and hope lots of people on my flist post stuff so her post will get buried away so I don't have to see it again.
Okay, I'm feeling better. It's wonderful what some deep breaths and positive thinking can do to your psyche. Pardon me for the rant but I guess I just needed to get things out.
I find this really stupid.
Being upset at someone stealing your links and files and sharing them without your consent, that I can understand. What I really don't like is posting about it. Seriously, what does she want? Validation from other fans saying "you're totally right in doing what you did" or "that sucks, I hope that person dies for ruining it all for us"? I seriously don't understand. A decision like that doesn't need to be announced if there wasn't some sort of expectation to go with it, like she was responsible for uploading whatever it was. It belongs more to her own personal journal than the community and frankly, I really wouldn't like reading them even if they were on a personal journal.
It's just that the expectation that your own personal wishes will be honored that gets to me because even if it's a tight-knit community, even if you're just sharing with "friends," if you're sharing things online to people out of the goodness of your heart, chances are, it's going to be downloaded, taken and reuploaded somewhere else. And however much you're upset about it or how you specifically asked for it not to be have been shared, they should have realized that only nice people would honor that request and there will always be bastards who ignore it. And knowing that, and after weighing the risks of your file being shared without your permission with the gain of people adoring you for your media posts and then if still deciding to share your stuff, you should be okay with the outcome, whatever it may be. And not whine about it afterward. Or at least do it in an appropriate place -- like not in a community that may have people like me who don't give a damn.
It sucks she won't be sharing her files any more. I have no idea what she shared in the past but one less person sharing stuff always sucks. But if she just disappeared off into the sunset, I wouldn't have noticed. She's not one of the people I know or have on my flist so I doubt I would have cared either. But posting on to a community to explain yourself after the fact is like trying to get the last word in and it's really petty. I don't want that stuff on my flist if it doesn't relate to me. Is that really so much to ask?
Ugh, this just gets to me. I see these all the time and while I sympathize with them, I really don't care for the way they handle things. It's like they scream "Take a look at me! I'm the injured party! Flock to my side and hate all those people who are responsible for me not sharing things with you! It's all their fault because they forced me to do this!" Share or not to share, that is their own business. Their reasons for either are their own. They do not need to announce it to the world either way. And to presume people care about their reasons without someone asking about them first is just arrogance. And I really dislike people who do that.
When it's just posted to their personal journals, I can deal because hey, if people on your flist aren't the ones who would care, who would? And I ignore those posts because I realize that it's perfectly valid ranting to people whom you've become friends with online, people whom you can expect who give a damn about this happening to you. But onto a whole community? That's like taking arrogance to a whole new level. And I'm stuck with this really negative post on my flist and since I was already frazzled to begin with (trying to figure out plans for my parents to fly out for my graduation sucks ass), this just makes me even more upset.
Ugh. I shouldn't hate on people. I hate people who hate on people. I don't want to be that person. I've got to calm down. This isn't hurting me. This doesn't affect me. This had nothing to do with me. I don't know this person. I don't know what files she's refusing to share. And I don't care. Aside from the negative energy she's let go on my flist, this has nothing to do to me. I am calm and I'll get over this. There are better things to do, like rereading Misconceptions again. I'm going to focus on that for the next few hours and hope lots of people on my flist post stuff so her post will get buried away so I don't have to see it again.
Okay, I'm feeling better. It's wonderful what some deep breaths and positive thinking can do to your psyche. Pardon me for the rant but I guess I just needed to get things out.
